Hello Hunnies!
Last week we talked about ‘body shaming’ and its effect on us. I hope that you have started accepting yourself as you are. Say it loud and say it proud, “I am …. Whatever I say I am!”
This week, leh we talk about walking into a room and being looked at from head to toe. This is a follow up to being body positive.
Let me tell you about an experience I had on Sunday. I need y’all to leave a comment, letting me know if you’ve ever experienced it and how you felt about it. I’m starting from the beginning, so join me for this ride.
Outsyde!
So my girls and I planned a rainbow picnic in the National Park last Sunday, and the dress code was any colour top of your choice, with a short pants. Last week, I mentioned that I’ve always been on the plumper side, so imagine me in a lil’ piece pants.
Fast forward to me entering the park, snack box in hand and two of the other girls beside me helping carry the stuff I had, to where we were set up. The stares came from the left, the right and the centre, from both men and women. Some had frowns, some had a look of delight and some with uncomfortable lust.
Now would you believe who looked at me with the frowns? WOMEN!
It’s truly sad being a full figured woman who suffered from body positivity issues, to still, at my age, clearly embracing who I am, to be looked at by other women like I had leper and monkey pox all at once. Meanwhile, the men gave me appreciative glances, seeing a fine specimen like myself grace them with my presence.
So, I did what I do best, I walk-modeled.
But why though?
Ladies!!! Energy speaks louder than words. It used to be actions, but now its energy. Stop giving off this energy of envy, hatred and jealousy. It’s okay not to agree with someone’s choice of clothing, but we have to consider how they may feel when we look at them with that look of disgust. Those are the little things that make us women, lose self-esteem and self-confidence and eventually have self-doubts about ourselves. These little things escalade and have lasting effects of people that has potential to deteriorate ones mental health. Why does it always have to be other women? If anything, we should be looking out for each other, hyping each other up.
My dear women, it’s about time we start uplifting each other. We’re already in a battle with the guys. The gender equality is not gender equaling (as the young people say), it’s still shocking for some that we have female pilots, mechanical and aeronautical engineers, plumbers, electricians, etc. all of which are usually considered male dominated careers. So, my plea is that we appreciate each other, lift up each other and be there for each other. Ole people like to say, ‘women got society’, let’s make this true.
I however, truly care zero, about people’s perception of me and my choices. Clothing, or otherwise, I will be my authentic self, always. This is where I want to say to you all, we all have flaws, we all have something we don’t love about ourselves, but there are people who are unable to even see what they look like, because they are blind. There are people out there who have no idea what their skin feels like because they have no hands, or how it feels to walk-model like I did, because they have no legs. Appreciate what you have and who you are, and always be YOU.
As for me, I will continue to hold my head up high and strut like a peacock up in this bi-a-tch.
Like I said last week, here is my advice – “Accept who you are. Everyone has flaws. Everyone has something on their bodies or about themselves they do not like. It’s not just you. Focus on the brightest side, you’re alive. Be grateful for all of the little things. Embrace you! Love you! Regardless.”
As I always say, “Whatever is for you, will be for you.”
XOXO,
K